Definition

• Needs and wants are taken care of in an indirect, cunning, deceptive, and crafty way with ulterior motives in mind.

Characteristics

• Game player (using pouting, looking hurt, silence, dropping hints, flirting, giving or withholding attention or caring, and other indirect methods to manipulate people)
• Uses double messages (say one thing and mean another)
• Hides real feelings and intentions
• Inward feelings and outward expressions often incongruent
• Rebellious
• Gets defensive and angry when caught manipulating
• Strong need for approval and attention
• Insecure but wears facade
• Distrusts others

Major Consequences

• May be successful in manipulating others in indirect ways.
• Undermines credibility and trust.
• Causes them to lose touch with real self and real feelings.