Definition

• Needs and wants are taken care of by suppressing them or maneuvering others to take care of them.
• Also use manipulative behaviors to get others to take care of them.

Characteristics

• Denies needs, subordinates them to others, or manipulates others to take care of them
• Often plays martyr role
• Follower
• Tries to do what they think others expect of them
• Lacks self-confidence
• Easily intimidated and controlled by others
• Indecisive
• Moody
• Occasionally cashes in on stored-up anger and feelings
• Uncertain about who they are

Major Consequences

• May result in some needs getting met.
• Often results in sacrificing needs, getting them met in inappropriate ways, and the loss of identity and ability to take care of self.