The Conflict Grid

Look at your three highest scores, and consider them with the descriptions below. For example, if you scored high in Avoidance, Smoothing, and Compromise, we would characterize you as having a “left of center” preference to dealing with conflict. Your desire is to meet the social, emotional, and relationship needs of people involved. If you scored higher in problem solving, authoritative command, and compromise, then you are more analytical in your approach, or may choose to assert your authority and impose a solution when conflict arises.


Significance of
Emotional Intelligence

Smoothing
Soften harshness,
arousal, and issues
to maintain peace
and harmony.
H
I
G
H
Problem Solving
Issues are
uncovered,
conversation
encouraged, and
conflict is resolved.
L O WCompromising
No one wins or loses.
Accommodation and
adjustments are used to get
to acceptable as opposed to
best outcomes.
H I G H
Avoidance
Withdrawl,
ignoring, hiding
issues that would
contribute to
conflict.
L
O
W
Authoritative
Solutions are
imposed, power
struggles ensue.
Issues are decided
through arbitration
or by a manager.

The conflict grid shows how each style demonstrates high or low emotional intelligence and commitment to the people involved, and low to high concern for the production targets within any area of responsibility. You’ll see that only the problem-solving style scores high on both continuums; people and production. It is for this reason that we argue that it takes problem-solving strategies to achieve real conflict resolution. Problem-solving is an attempt to identify and work through the causes of conflict, not merely to suppress them temporarily.

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